Comments on: How I Stopped People from Interrupting Me

By: Carlota

Carlota — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 07:20:14 +0000

Hi @Aditi,
It’s interesting how one of us can get hung up on a “pet peeve” and others have no problem with constantly getting interrupted. I’ve watched others take this friend’s interrupting and they seem to just roll with it and even laugh it off!

Most times criticism we receive about our work isn’t about us “not being enough” yet it becomes about that due to some childhood memory where we equated being a “good girl/boy” with being “good at making art” or “being quiet while mommy takes a nap.”

I’m glad you found the “walk through” helpful! And yes, “rant, whine and complain.” Don’t keep it bottled up! Releasing these emotions out on paper releases the power they held over us.
Your desire to observe your feelings and responses to others criticism takes courage; you’re doing awesome! I’m so happy you could apply the affirmations to your specific issues

Here’s to your sqooshing!

By: Carlota

Carlota — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 06:55:21 +0000

@Relax,
That’s a great phrase to use “intrapersonal development”! I’ve received amazing benefits to doing internal work on myself, and it makes me a more independent and optimistic person
Our thoughts and reactions to things are the only things we can control, but sometimes by changing ourselves, others around us change in response–so it’s a bonus when it happens, but never the goal.
Ya, EFT is a nice quick fix and sometimes I use it when I can’t quite verbalize what I’m going through! It also taps into your subconscious mind, and that’s where if you want to break a stubborn habit or negative pattern, the real magic happens!
“Flowers at doorstep”–wow, thank you so much, but really your articles are engaging and memorable

By: aditi

aditi — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 02:20:51 +0000

Wow. Great post! I haven’t had the same specific issue of feeling hurt and invalidated when interrupted – but I do often feel the same way when someone criticizes (well meaning mostly) my work. I tend to get defensive and insecure about what I’m doing and the way I’m doing it, and this results in a mean backlash at the person involved (mostly just in hateful thought, although it has been occasionally hard to hide my emotion).

I love how you walk through your process of getting through these negative emotions. Its so comforting to know, that its okay to “rant, whine and complain”! I know that I don’t want feel so defensive when someone makes a comment… it means I am limiting my own possibilities for growth. I don’t want to resent the person making these comments, they have the right to say what they want to say. I want to learn not to take everything so personally. In that sense your affirmation is very helpful – even in my situation, so thank you!

By: Relax

Relax — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:48:27 +0000

It’s great that you take your intra-personal development seriously. I seldom face the problem that you faced. Maybe it’s because of the law of attraction, I usually meet nice communicators.

I think it’s good to try to shift the consciousness to other people (second person perception) and manifest polite behavior in them. That might influence how they treat us, to some extent.

EFT is a nice technique but I usually simplify it to tapping only to get rid of negativity quickly.

I want to thank you so much for putting your time and effort sharing your techniques and experience on my blog! I’m delighted to read your comments. They are like flowers at doorstep in the morning

*hugs*