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		<title>5 quotations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Mar 2009 00:29:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Here are a few more of my favorite quotations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic, I hope they empower you as they have in my life...]]></description>
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<p>Here are a few more of my favorite quotations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic, I hope they empower you as they have in my life!  Enjoy!</p>
<blockquote><p>1. &#8220;Don’t worry about what the world needs, <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">ask what makes you come alive</span></strong> and do that <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">because what the world needs are people who have come alive.</span></strong>&#8221; ~<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/015697648X?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=015697648X">Howard Thurman</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=015697648X" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /><br />
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<p>&#8211;&gt; The world needs passionate people. When you do what makes you come alive, your passion gives others permission to do the same, and this brings deep healing and abundance to everyone in the world.</p>
<p>Amazing contributions come from passionate people who do what makes them come alive! <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/wink.png' alt='Wink' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></p>
<blockquote><p>2. &#8220;<strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Often what we think are &#8216;wrong&#8217; with us are only our expressions of our own individuality.</span></strong> This is our uniqueness and what is special about us. Nature never repeats itself. Since time began on this planet, there have never been two snowflakes alike or two raindrops the same. And every daisy is different from every other daisy. Our fingerprints are different, and we are different. <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">We are meant to be different. When we accept this, there is no competition and no comparison.</span></strong> To try to be like another is to shrivel our soul. <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>We have come to this planet to express who <em>we are</em></strong></span>.&#8221;</p>
<p>~ <strong>Louise Hay</strong>, author of <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000XY46X0?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B000XY46X0">You Can Heal Your Life</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000XY46X0" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></span></strong></p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211;&gt; I like to read Hay&#8217;s words<strong> </strong>when my Inner Critic causes me to feel inferior compared to others because how I do things is &#8220;too different&#8221;, &#8220;odd&#8221;, &#8220;strange&#8221;, &#8220;eccentric&#8221;, or &#8220;not like normal people would do it&#8221;.</p>
<blockquote><p>3. &#8220;One of the greatest fears you&#8217;ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others. As you begin to dump such brainwashing, <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">you&#8217;ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others</span></strong> and that <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>people will gladly pay you for it.</strong></span>&#8221;</p>
<p>~ <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Steve Pavlina's blog post: 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Get a Job" href="http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/07/10-reasons-you-should-never-get-a-job/" target="_blank">Steve Pavlina</a></strong></span>, author of <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401922759?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1401922759">Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401922759" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /><br />
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<p>&#8211;&gt; Once you turn towards passion and what to do for a living that incorporates what you&#8217;re passionate about, you might experience your inner critic telling you useless things like &#8220;you might be passionate about it, but you&#8217;re not that good at it!&#8221;  You might also ask yourself &#8220;what are my talents?!&#8221; Only to draw a blank. Pavlina&#8217;s quote is useful in these situations (among many others!)</p>
<blockquote><p>4. &#8220;All you really need is the courage to be yourself. <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do. </strong></span>The only thing you need actually do is <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">express your real self to the world. </span></strong>You&#8217;ve been told all sort of likes as to why you can&#8217;t do that. But <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">you&#8217;ll</span></strong> never <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>know true happiness and fullfillment</strong></span> until you summon the courage to do it anyway.&#8221;</p>
<p>~ <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Steve Pavlina's blog post: 10 Reasons Why You Should Never Get a Job" href="http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/07/10-reasons-you-should-never-get-a-job/" target="_blank">Steve Pavlina</a></strong></span>, author of <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401922759?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1401922759">Personal Development for Smart People</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401922759" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /><br />
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<p>&#8211;&gt; This can  be easy to forget in our society, where the focus is on results and everyone seems to identify you by &#8220;what you do&#8221;.  I have to remind myself that &#8220;what I did&#8221; and &#8220;what I didn&#8217;t do&#8221; are not &#8220;who I am&#8221;.  With this in mind, it is easier to forgive and accept yourself <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/grin.png' alt='Grin' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></p>
<blockquote><p>5. [ To be determined...<span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>by you?!</strong></span> ]</p></blockquote>
<p>&#8211;&gt; <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">HELP!!</span></strong> When I came up with this blog post idea, I soon discovered that due to perfectionism and the &#8220;need&#8221; to keep all my books looking brand spankin&#8217; new, none of my books were highlighted with my favorite quotes!  <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/confused.png' alt='Confused' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /> You got me, I lied. <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/frown.png' alt='Frown' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /> I have only 4 to share with you today&#8230;</p>
<p>&#8211;&gt;BUT, it&#8217;s no coincidence you&#8217;re reading this post, as the Law of Attraction brought you here today <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/wink.png' alt='Wink' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /> <strong>Blogs are about co-creation</strong>&#8230;<span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>if you have a powerful quote we would all appreciate you sharing it with us!! </strong></span>You can leave as many as you&#8217;d like in the comments box. <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/grin.png' alt='Grin' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 03 Mar 2009 03:04:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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<p style="text-align: left;">Hi-i!</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">I came across a wonderful discussion group called &#8220;<strong>Easy World</strong>&#8221; (founded by <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Easy World article on www.juliarogershamrick.com" href="http://www.juliarogershamrick.com/articles.html?article=world-of-solutions-part-1&amp;title=Easy%20World:%20A%20World%20of%20Solutions,%20Part%201" target="_blank">Julia Rogers Hamrick</a></strong></span>) on the <a title="Powerful Intentions forum" href="http://www.powerfulintentions.org/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Powerful Intentions</strong></span></a> forum.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><em>The </em><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Powerful Intentions forum" href="http://www.powerfulintentions.org/" target="_blank"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>Powerful Intentions</strong></span></a></strong></span><em> forum is a *FREE* place to express your intentions for manifesting  fabulous life and getting the <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401918816?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1401918816">Law of Attraction</a></strong></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401918816" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> to work for you. </em></p>
<p style="text-align: left;">In this forum, anyone can post questions on how to attract abundance, love, happiness, health, money, peace, doo-dads, positive relationships with family members, ideal career and better paying jobs, etc.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">A few of you may know that I spend most of my free time on this forum; everyone is so helpful, welcoming and quick to help who ever is in need.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">It is so easy to lift up your spirits and escape your merciless inner critic when you have a forum of friends that are enthusiastic, warm, open, and allow you to be yourself (warts and all, LOL!).</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Anyway, back to Easy World&#8230;</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">One of the discussions I&#8217;m participating in is &#8220;<strong>Daily Dose Of The Magic Words!</strong>&#8221; where everyone can join in and say:</p>
<blockquote style="text-align: left;"><p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>&#8220;I choose to live in Easy World where everything is easy!&#8221;</strong></span></p></blockquote>
<p style="text-align: left;">I read line after line of people saying this phrase, sometimes with a personal visualization of how they are now living in &#8220;Easy World&#8221; and what it looks like for them.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">I then found myself saying,</p>
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<p style="text-align: left;">&#8220;I live in <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">easy</span></strong> world where writing my next blog post is <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">easy</span></strong>.  It&#8217;s <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">easy</span></strong> for me to come up with a topic, and the words just flow <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">easily</span></strong> onto my wordpress editor.  Even finding an image to go with the blog post is <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">easy</span></strong>, I find the perfect image quickly.&#8221;</p>
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<p style="text-align: left;">&#8230;You see,<strong> I was actually procrastinating writing my next blog post</strong> and was poking around on the Powerful Intentions forum instead.</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">After reading the &#8220;Easy World&#8221; discussion, an idea for a blog post suddenly came to mind,</span></strong> and I left the forum to quickly write a blog post&#8230;45 minutes after reading &#8220;I choose to live in Easy World where everything is easy!&#8221;</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><em>Do you have anything going on in your life that you find &#8220;difficult&#8221; to do, be, have, attract, or create?</em></p>
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<p style="text-align: left;"><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>&#8220;I choose to live in Easy World where everything is easy!&#8221;</strong></span></p>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Feb 2009 02:27:40 +0000</pubDate>
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<p><strong>When will you escape from being a self-criticizer to a creator?</strong></p>
<p>This is a true story of my tipping point:  How I came to a deep understanding of criticism&#8217;s role in this world, and how I used it to escape criticism.</p>
<p>Three years ago, I had a coffee shop in this suburban town called Lakewood, Colorado.  It was a really vibrant shop with many shades of the creative color orange.</p>
<p>I had so many ideas for hosting meetups there.  Every time I had a brilliant idea I quickly told my sister and everyone else around me.  One of my ideas was to host a free showing of the movie <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000K8LV1O?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B000K8LV1O">The Secret</a></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000K8LV1O" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong>, and customers could enjoy a cup of coffee or tea while watching it.</p>
<p>I ran this idea by my friends and family.  <strong><em>Most were supportive, except for one,</em></strong> who said &#8220;I don&#8217;t know, Carlota, this is Lakewood and I&#8217;m not sure that many people would be open to a movie like that.&#8221;</p>
<p>At that point in my life I hadn&#8217;t done much work on self-acceptance and listening to my inner guide, so I had the habit of gobbling up discouragement.</p>
<p>So, you guessed it, I went around in circles of doubt, self-criticism, eating up discouragement and&#8230;Didn&#8217;t end up hosting a single event for months.</p>
<p>For some reason I got inspired to see a psychic reader (I prefer the term &#8220;Life Coach&#8221;, but whatever, LOL!)  In the session I asked her what sort of events to host at the coffee shop that would bring in dozens more customers.</p>
<p>I named off a few of my ideas and she told me my lesson in this life is to strengthen my intuition.</p>
<p><strong>My response?</strong> I started to explain why I felt those ideas wouldn&#8217;t work.  I said things like, &#8220;But I&#8217;m not sure Lakewood is ready for something like <strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000K8LV1O?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B000K8LV1O">The Secret</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000K8LV1O" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong>. What if instead of bringing in more business, I end up driving away existing customers?&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>Then she said, &#8220;STOP. Take a deep breath. You have a choice.  You can only do one thing at a time.  <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>You can either criticize yourself or create. </strong></span>Which do you want to do?&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>I sat there pondering her theory and then asked, &#8220;But I can criticize while I create&#8230;can&#8217;t I?  It seems I&#8217;ve done this all my life&#8230;&#8221;</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;No, you can not.&#8221; She said.  &#8220;<strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">At any given moment, you can only do one thing at a time.</span></strong> You can either listen to other people&#8217;s criticism, or you can create.  You can criticize yourself about a hypothetical creation, or you can create. <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">In any case, you won&#8217;t have anything real to criticize if you haven&#8217;t created anything yet.</span></strong>&#8220;</p></blockquote>
<p><em><strong>ah Hah!</strong></em> I finally understood it.  Those who criticize, are not in that moment creating. <strong>Those who are fully immersed in the act of creating, are in that moment, not criticizing. </strong></p>
<p><em>What are your thoughts on this theory?</em> <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>If it resonates with you, where in your life have you witnessed this truth?</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>P.S.<span style="color: #000000;">,</span></strong></span><span style="color: #000000;"> </span> I did end up hosting <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000K8LV1O?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B000K8LV1O">The Secret</a></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000K8LV1O" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong> event.  And the amazing thing is, I had a full house that night, and 90% of these people didn&#8217;t come to see The Secret, but were energetically attracted to the small crowd who did.  The Law of Attraction works in astonishing ways, doesn&#8217;t it?  <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><em>You never know what will happen in your life, until you step out of criticism and into creation.</em></span></strong></p>
<p><em>Here&#8217;s to sqooshing YOUR inner critic!</em></p>
<p>Love,</p>
<p>Carlota</p>
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		<title>Prosperity Prayer</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Feb 2009 07:48:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[After seeing this prayer in more than 3 places, I've decided to take it more seriously and spend the next 30 days saying it out loud.  Anyone want to join me?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Speaking positive affirmations out loud can turn your focus away from criticizing yourself and/or internalizing other people&#8217;s criticisms of you.</p>
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<p>In order for us all to attract more prosperity in our lives, we must affirm that it is already ours, and by doing so we are sqooshing out our inner critic&#8217;s blurts (the ones that tell us we can&#8217;t attract more prosperity).</p>
<p>Joe Vitale (of <strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000K8LV1O?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=B000K8LV1O">The Secret</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000K8LV1O" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong>) sent out this powerful prosperity prayer in his newsletter:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I posted this prayer on my blog a few days ago<br />
and so many people loved it that I thought I<br />
would share it with you here, too. It was sent to<br />
me by Will Bowen, author of <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0385524587?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0385524587">A Complaint Free World</a></strong></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0385524587" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" />, who said it was the greatest consciousness<br />
conditioner available to attract prosperity.<br />
Here it is…</p></blockquote>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong><span style="color: #000000;">~</span>Prosperity Prayer</strong></span><span style="color: #000000;">~</span></p>
<p><em>(<strong>Read Aloud</strong> Every Day for <strong>30 days</strong>)</em></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">I am the source of all wealth.</span></strong> I am rich with creative<br />
ideas. My mind abounds with new, original, inspired<br />
thoughts. What I have to offer is unique, and the world<br />
desires it.</p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;">My value is beyond reckoning</span>. What the world needs<br />
and desires, I am ready to produce and give. <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>What the<br />
world needs and desires, I recognize and fulfill.</strong></span> The<br />
bounty of my mind is without hindrance or limit. <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Nothing<br />
can stand in the way of my inspired creativeness.</strong></span></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">The overflowing power of God life energy overcomes<br />
every obstacle</span>,</strong> &amp; pours out into the world, blessing &amp;<br />
prospering everyone, &amp; everything through me.</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>I radiate blessings, I radiate creativity, I radiate<br />
prosperity, I radiate loving service</strong>.</span> I radiate Joy,<br />
Beauty, Peace,Wisdom &amp; Power. Humanity seeks<br />
me and rewards me. I am beloved of the world.<br />
I am wanted wherever I go.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">I am appreciated. What I have to offer is greatly desired.</span></strong><br />
What I have to offer brings a rich reward. Through my vision<br />
the world is blessed. Through my clear thinking &amp; steadfast<br />
purpose, wonderful new values come into expression.</p>
<p>My vision is as the vision of the mighty ones. <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">My faith is<br />
as the faith of the undefeatable. My power to accomplish<br />
is unlimited. </span></strong>I, in my uttermost God Source, am all wealth,<br />
all power, all productivity. I hereby declare my financial<br />
free-dom, NOW and henceforth forever!</p>
<p>Love,</p>
<p>joe</p>
<p>PS — Please forward this email to all those you feel<br />
would welcome this prayer. Thank you.</p>
<p>Note: My blog is at <span style="color: #ff6600;"><a title="Joe Vitale's blog" href="http://blog.mrfire.com/" target="_blank">http://blog.mrfire.com/</a></span><br />
Follow me on Twitter at <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a title="Follow Joe Vitale on Twitter" href="http://www.twitter.com/mrfire" target="_blank">http://www.twitter.com/mrfire</a></span></p></blockquote>
<p>After seeing this prayer in more than 3 places, <strong>I&#8217;ve decided to take it more seriously and spend the next 30 days</strong> <strong>saying it out loud.</strong> (At least once a day)</p>
<p>I will be posting updates in the comments below.<br />
<em><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Anyone want to join me?</span></strong></em><br />
<strong>Please come back here and share</strong> any miracles that have happened to you during these next 30 days!<br />
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		<title>How to Properly Give Yourself Credit for Your Accomplishments</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Feb 2009 06:51:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[After one week of spending 5 minutes doing this homework assignment, I saw incredible changes: My outlook on life was brighter, I felt more authentically confident, I was more accepting of myself]]></description>
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<p>I once had a <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470286423?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=0470286423">Law of Attraction</a></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0470286423" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong> mentor who I met with once a week.  My intention in working with her was to attract double the number of clients for the hotel I was marketing.</p>
<p>To start off our session, she would ask &#8220;How are you today?&#8221;</p>
<p>And my response for several weeks were different variations of &#8220;Oh, I could be doing better.  I&#8217;m disappointed that I didn&#8217;t [do this, do that]. And I spent so long working on [this mailing piece] instead of something more productive like [driving traffic to our new website]. I know criticizing my work delays attracting what I want&#8230;but I can&#8217;t seem to stop criticizing myself for criticizing myself!&#8221;</p>
<p>She listened to my negative self-talk for several weeks about why I couldn&#8217;t seem to quickly attract double the number of clients we currently had, and would suggest different tools for countering my self-judgments and feelings of &#8220;not doing and being good enough.&#8221;</p>
<p>It wasn&#8217;t until one week she gave me a certain homework assignment.</p>
<p><strong>It was SO simple that I didn&#8217;t believe it would work!</strong></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>After one week of spending 5 minutes doing this homework assignment, I saw incredible changes:</strong></span> My outlook on life was brighter, I felt more authentically confident, I was more accepting of myself, I enjoyed my job more, and best of all, I had sqooshed some inner criticism and self-judgment that was preventing me from attracting what I wanted.</p>
<p>Now, I&#8217;m passing this technique along to you, free of charge <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/grin.png' alt='Grin' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' />:</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Every day, take 5 minutes to write down 5 things you appreciate of yourself.</strong></span> This list can include anything: Things you accomplished in the past or just recently, things you like about yourself, things you are proud you did or are currently doing, something you said to someone that really made their day, etc.</p></blockquote>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">To kick-start this, here is my list</span></strong> of 5 things I appreciate myself for today:</p>
<ol>
<li>Being friends with 2 people for over a decade!</li>
<li>Juicing my fruit and veggies 3x a week this month.</li>
<li>Finished writing my ebook today, &#8220;59 Powerful Affirmations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic!&#8221;</li>
<li>Helped a friend boost her confidence and self-image.</li>
<li>Complimented my sister on her cooking talents.</li>
</ol>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;">*</span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Did you like this homework assignment?</strong></span> Do you feel it can become a part of your daily &#8220;sqoosh your inner critic&#8221; routine?</p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;">Anything else you&#8217;d like to add to this conversation?</span><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"> <em> <span style="color: #ff6600;">Remember to add your comments below!</span></em></span></strong></p>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>A while ago I received a comment in response to <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Permanent Link to Confessions of a Successful Quitter" rel="bookmark" href="../a-passionate-career/confessions-of-a-successful-quitter/">Confessions of a Successful Quitter</a></strong></span>, where I wrote about quitting careers in order to go for your dreams.  It was such an amazing piece of feedback that I&#8217;ve decided to respond to it by creating a  dedicated post! (Or maybe more, we&#8217;ll see how it goes.) </em></p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Comment in response to Confessions of a Successful Quitter" href="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/a-passionate-career/confessions-of-a-successful-quitter/comment-page-1/#comment-3" target="_blank"></a></strong></span></p>
<p>Let&#8217;s start the conversation!  Here we go&#8230;</p>
<h3><span style="color: #ff6600;">Step 1. </span> Understand that quitting isn&#8217;t a bad word&#8230;</h3>
<blockquote><p>Comment: &#8220;I think you are courageous and brave for reinventing yourself so many times… even though its been frustrating for you, it takes guts to be able to jump into something new every time you think something is not working.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Thank you!  I hadn&#8217;t thought of it as courageous, just something that had to be done.  But I will definitely add this word to my collection <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/wink.png' alt='Wink' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>I&#8217;m a firm believer in quitting as many times as it takes</strong></span> to find your true calling, or at least purpose in life.  Life is too short (or what I used to say, TOO DAMN LONG!) to be doing something you dislike.</p>
<p><strong>Allowing yourself to quit on something that is just plain not working for you is a </strong><em><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>loving and honorable act</strong></span>.  It shows that you care about your happiness.  (It also subliminally gives others the permission to care about their own happiness.) </em>Your staying at a job that you don&#8217;t enjoy doesn&#8217;t contribute much benefit and healing to the World. <em><br />
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<p>I used to find it difficult to honor my <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/141654772X?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=141654772X">happiness</a></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=141654772X" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong>, and then I pondered this:  My unhappiness was contagious because contrary to popular <strong>false</strong> belief, it didn&#8217;t make ANYONE happy.</p>
<p>I assumed wrongly that sacrificing my happiness for my parents&#8217; happiness  was a worthy cause.  Actually, what I thought and what they thought would make them happy was also an illusion.</p>
<p>Instead what happened is I was working as an untalented unhappy engineer and that is one contribution the world does not need!  (Not to mention, seeing me be so unhappy was depressing to them.)</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">So, following your dreams takes one tiny but transformational step:</span></strong> Intention to quit what isn&#8217;t working for you.</p>
<h3><span style="color: #ff6600;">Step 2.</span> Accept your transition style  and stop comparing how others &#8220;do&#8221; change&#8230;</h3>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;">*</span></p>
<blockquote><p>Comment: “I feel like I negotiate all the time, like I am much more cautious about my approach to making big changes. I like to have multiple plans in place before I make a leap just so that I try to minimize the chances of complete and abject failure. But in the process, I think this limits me from dreaming even larger…. sometimes in taking greater risks you also have chances for greater and bigger rewards.”</p></blockquote>
<p>I think it’s important to note that it’s all about balance.  You seem like someone who eases into making big changes in your life, and this helps you to transition smoothly.  It&#8217;s a great trait to have, especially since while planning you are assessing which changes you are ready for.  That takes honesty and acceptance of who you are in the present moment.</p>
<p>Many of us who desire changes in our lives become attached and try force-fitting  it (a spin off of force-feeding, you like?!) into our present reality.  We become impatient &#8220;I want it now!  When will the goodies arrive??&#8221;</p>
<p>I’m someone who takes huge leaps into the unknown, and a lot of times because I came unprepared and wasn&#8217;t as ready for the changes as I thought I was, I got lots of scrapes and bruises along the way.  However, <strong>I&#8217;ve made peace with my transition style </strong>(this can be an ongoing effort) <strong>and celebrate in the ways it has worked in my favor. </strong></p>
<p>Let go of comparing how others &#8220;do&#8221; transition with how you &#8220;do&#8221; transition, as there is no right or wrong way.  And what works for others may not work for you.  <strong></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Criticizing yourself for your approach to making changes and manifesting the life you want is abusive  and doesn&#8217;t allow for change to happen.</span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><span style="color: #ffffff;">*</span><br />
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<h3>Step 3.  Let go of regret and any limiting beliefs you adopted from past experiences of &#8220;taking risks&#8221; and &#8220;making changes&#8221;&#8230;</h3>
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<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #ffffff;">*</span></p>
<p>On the other hand, we all have to assess whether we are erring on the side of safety and protection due to past memories of “things not working out” or if there really is a reason to be cautious and it’s your intuition guiding you.</p>
<p>If it’s the past that’s haunting you, it might be worth looking into the limiting beliefs you adopted from those experiences–they may be faulty.  As<strong> blame, shame, guilt and self-judgment often disillusion us from the real reasons things happened the way they did.</strong></p>
<blockquote><p>Comment &#8220;I chose to go to grad school for 2 years to learn these skills&#8230;There are benefits to me having done what I did (like creating contacts in my industry in New York), and disadvantages (such as a big student loan and loss of income/retirement savings for a few years). Its hard to tell at this point what would have been better.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Wondering if choosing the other alternative would have gotten you to where you want to go faster is I think, irrelevant.  And for what purpose?  It may lead to regret and regret is useless.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">The important thing to remember is that it doesn&#8217;t matter how you get to where you want to go, just as long as you get there. </span></strong>Every path is perfect and unique in its own way; celebrate the wonderful gifts that the path you&#8217;ve chosen is giving you now.</p>
<p>I spent 6 years studying Engineering and I spent a lot of time regretting it.  And then I realized that was a useless thing to do, as it would then negate the amazing friendships I made, that are still with me today.</p>
<p>You might not have the confirmation that going to graduate school was beneficial to your current goals/dreams until years down the road.  But what I know for sure is, you <strong><em>will</em></strong> reap the rewards of that experience; one way or another.</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">
<p>&#8230;<strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Regret is immobilizing and in the moment you are in regret, you are not creating the life you want. </span> </strong></p>
<blockquote><p><strong>You can choose only one thing at a time to do</strong>, <span style="color: #000000;"><strong>shall it be<span style="color: #ff6600;"> regret</span> or <span style="color: #ff6600;">create</span>?</strong></span></p></blockquote>
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<p>What is your transition style and how has it worked in your favor?  Is there a moment in your life where you once regretted a decision but then it turned out to benefit you after all?</p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>I always learn something new from my readers, so please share your thoughts and stories with all of us by leaving a reply to this post! </strong></span></p>
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		<title>“The Artist’s Way” Book Review or “The Way to Freedom From Your Inner Critic”</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Feb 2009 03:43:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I was first introduced to this book back when I was a college student getting a bachelor’s degree in engineering...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464"><img class="aligncenter" src="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/artists-way-bookcover.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></p>
<h3>How this book came into my life&#8230;</h3>
<p>I was first introduced to this book back when I was a college student getting a bachelor’s degree in engineering.  One of my best friends (still is <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/smile.png' alt='Smile' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /> ) bought this book and together we were the misfits of our Engineering School; completely in denial about our heart’s desire to lead a more creative path.</p>
<p>Well, okay.  Not completely.  We could admit to ourselves and each other that Engineering was our means of and not our way of life.  Nonetheless, <strong>I quickly snatched up my own copy of <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464">The Artist&#8217;s Way</a></span><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> for what it addressed beyond creativity:</strong> recovery from criticism and my own Inner Critic.</p>
<p>The first time I read through this book, I was going through subsequent exam failures and failed out of a college course (or two, okay maybe five!!).  <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">What got me through those moments of doubt, insecurity, and beating myself up was the gentle, poetic guidance of this book.</span></strong></p>
<p>A decade after I bought this book I am now on the path I was meant to be on, that of a writer.  Although it feels like I’ve come home and I am loving my new path, it’s in writing that all of my worst inner criticisms and fears bubble up.  When I don’t address these criticisms and fears, I experience writer’s block—not something a person who writes for a living can afford to lounge around in!</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Time and time again, reading and re-reading</span></strong> <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464">The Artist&#8217;s Way</a></strong><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></span><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong> has helped me unblock and keep me on track with my Career Goals&#8230;</strong></span></p>
<h3>Healing words from criticism are peppered throughout The Artist’s Way:</h3>
<blockquote>
<ul>
<li><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">“Progress, not perfection, is what we should be asking of ourselves.</span></strong></li>
<li>Remember that in order to recover as an artist, you must be willing to be a bad artist.</li>
<li>You are not dumb, crazy, egomaniacal, grandiose, or silly just because you falsely believe yourself to be.</li>
<li><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Useless criticism…is withering and shaming in tone; </strong><span style="color: #000000;">ambiguous in content; personal, inaccurate, or blanket in its condemnations.</span></span></li>
<li>There is nothing to be gleaned from irresponsible criticism.</li>
<li><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Creativity is the only cure from criticis<span style="color: #ff6600;">m.</span></strong></span><span style="color: #ff6600;">”</span></li>
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<h3>What you will gain from reading <strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464">this book</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></strong>:</h3>
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<li><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Emotional freedom from your Inner Critic</span></strong></li>
<li>Self-Reliance if you are emotionally Co-Dependent (are you built up by someone&#8217;s praise one moment only to be quickly torn down by another&#8217;s criticism?)</li>
<li><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Unlock your creativity to attract abundance in all areas of your life: </strong></span>Financial Prosperity, Career Success, Emotional and Physical Wellness</li>
<li>Reconnect to who you really are (your authentic self) and feel Whole again</li>
<li><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Align yourself with your forgotten passion and purpose in life</span></strong></li>
<li>Recover from the oppression of negativity and its limiting beliefs</li>
<li><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Learn to let go of relationships that no longer serve you</strong></span> (the “crazymakers” who sabotage your efforts to live honestly and create the life you desire)</li>
</ul>
<h3><strong>The single most useful tool I’ve found </strong>in <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464">The Artist&#8217;s Way</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></span></strong> is<strong> the Morning Pages</strong>:</h3>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><em>Three pages of stream of consciousness thoughts out on paper…</em></span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><em><a href="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/journal-pages-800.jpg"><img class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-877" title="journal-pages-800" src="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/journal-pages-800-300x224.jpg" alt="journal-pages-800" width="244" height="182" /></a><br />
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<p>Through writing the Morning Pages I learned to be there for myself and simply listen to what my emotions had to say about things that were happening in my life.  These Pages create a safe space to reflect, express fears and other uncomfortable emotions, and through them <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>an amazing breakthrough happened</strong></span>: <span style="color: #000000;"><em>I began to strengthen my intuition and make better decisions for myself.</em></span></p>
<h3><strong>There are very few things I found wrong with this book</strong>, but&#8230;</h3>
<p>Here are two areas I felt could use improvement:</p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Cameron is a stickler for writing the Morning Pages in the morning</strong>.  But we are all human! There are days I didn’t get to the Morning Pages until the afternoon or evening.  However, I discovered great benefits to writing mid-day or evening pages when I skipped the Morning ones (though the role of these pages differed from the morning ones).  The author could have suggested that if you don’t write them in the morning, there’s still opportunity to write them later on in the day.</li>
<li> <strong>The author could have elaborated on the use of Anger to inspire action.</strong> In the book she gives the topic of anger barely one page—when it’s a biggie emotion. I could&#8217;ve used some tips on how to diffuse and transform it into taking creative action.</li>
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<p>Other than that, <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1585421464?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=sqoyoucri-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1585421464">The Artist&#8217;s Way</a></span></strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=sqoyoucri-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1585421464" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /></span><span style="color: #ff6600;"> <strong>is quite thorough in sqooshing</strong></span> all the ways <span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>the Inner Critic</strong></span> manifests blockages <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">that&#8217;s holding you back</span> </strong>from creating the life of your dreams.</p>
<p>Whether you are new to healing your life or just shy of getting there, this book has resources and insights that will help you through each stage of your journey.</p>
<p><em><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">Have you read The Artist&#8217;s Way? </span></strong></em> What did you think of this book?<br />
<strong><em><span style="color: #ff0000;">If you haven&#8217;t read it, do you have any questions I can help you to answer?</span></em></strong> Feel free to drop it in the comment box below.</p>
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		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Back on April 2nd of 1999, it was like any other Day in the Life of an Untalented Engineer (yours truly :( ), except for one thing that stood out from the rest...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Back in April of 1999, it was like any other <em>Day in the Life of an Untalented Engineer</em> (yours truly <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/frown.png' alt='Frown' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /> ), except for one thing that stood out from the rest.</p>
<p>On this day I read my horoscope in the Colorado Daily, where even though <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Smart and inspiring astrology by Eric Francis" href="http://www.planetwaves.net/PW990402.html" target="_blank">the author</a></strong></span> meant to inspire me for the weekend, it&#8217;s been a  decade of re-inspiration by his timeless words.</p>
<p>Since these words have carried me through the worst of times, I wish to share them with you.  May they benefit you as they have for me:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;I recently did some creative-coaching astrological work with a novelist client, who was doubting the validity of his literary achievements.  I reminded him of what I will remind you.</p>
<p>A book called &#8220;Stephen Hero&#8221; was rescued, slightly toasted, from some fireplace by the sister of its author, James Joyce.  The book became &#8220;A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man.&#8221;</p>
<p>A friendly woman named Tabatha retrieved the manuscript of her husband Stephen&#8217;s first novel from a waste basket.  The manuscript was for a book called &#8220;Carrie,&#8221; it&#8217;s author&#8217;s first and perhaps most famous work.</p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">Yes, even brilliant people who are about to rock the culture</span></strong> are known to harbor their doubts.&#8221; ~Eric Francis</p></blockquote>
<p>And so it seems, that even brilliant people who are about to rock the culture fall prey to their Inner Critics.  Thankfully for us, those moments were sqooshed <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/wink.png' alt='Wink' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">***</p>
<p style="text-align: left;">Is there something you&#8217;d like to share with the world if only you weren&#8217;t afraid of public criticism?  I hope you can allow yourself to celebrate in all your differences and do it anyway, because the world needs your special talents and contributions!</p>
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		<title>How I Stopped People from Interrupting Me</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:30:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last week I got interrupted by a close friend. A host of insecurities and angry thoughts bubbled up...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Um&#8230;ya.  That&#8217;s a trick question.  Because the truth is, I can&#8217;t.  Sorry!!  None of us can.</p>
<p>But <strong>what we <em>can</em> do is change how we feel when someone interrupts us mid-sentence.  And</strong> more importantly, <strong>what we think about ourselves after it&#8217;s happened.</strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">***</p>
<h3 style="text-align: left;">When my friend interrupted me&#8230;</h3>
<p>Last week I got interrupted by a close friend.  It happens occasionally, and my usual reaction is to listen to my Inner Critic who says &#8220;its nothing, stop being so petty!&#8221;</p>
<p>So I had let this issue slide with my friend time and time again.  I tried to convince myself that &#8220;it isn&#8217;t worth it, you have to act as if it doesn&#8217;t bother you and eventually it won&#8217;t bother you!&#8221;</p>
<p><strong>I think the problem with that tactic is that this saying still holds true:</strong></p>
<blockquote><p><strong></strong> &#8220;What you resist persists.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>I&#8217;ve been resisting accepting that when my friend interrupts me while I&#8217;m in the middle of talking, it upsets me.  A host of insecurities and angry thoughts bubbled up.</p>
<h3>The writings on my wall&#8230;</h3>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;What I say isn&#8217;t worthy of her hearing!  She&#8217;s cutting me off because she doesn&#8217;t feel I have anything important to say!  Why doesn&#8217;t she just&#8211;get a dummy doll who will sit there silently and listen to her talk, but doesn&#8217;t say anything back?!  Am I simply not worthy of being heard?? How can she be bored already, I only said 3 words so far! Maybe I should just, stop trying to express myself around her (it&#8217;s just not safe)&#8230;&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>These are the writings on my wall that for <strong><em>years </em></strong>I didn&#8217;t confront.</p>
<p>The emotions behind this &#8220;my friend always interrupts me&#8221; trigger were all due to the limiting beliefs of my Inner Critic.</p>
<p>Until now&#8230;<strong></strong></p>
<h3><strong>I finally decided to surrender&#8230;</strong></h3>
<p>I got to work accepting that I felt marginalized, and that there were writings on my wall that never really benefited me. These <strong>limiting beliefs were what gave away my personal power and kept me feeling insecure about myself.</strong></p>
<p>For years they served their purpose:  To keep me feeling victimized and to prove that this world was an unfriendly place.  But now I&#8217;ve recognized that <strong><em>these writings are not only false, they are painful to carry with me</em></strong> every time I find myself &#8220;getting interrupted&#8221; by someone.</p>
<p>It had been a few weeks since I last did an <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Emotional Freedom Technique" href="http://www.tryitoneverything.com/cmd.php?af=869384" target="_blank">EFT</a></strong></span> session on myself&#8230;so I decided it was time for another one.  The results of this <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="What is EFT...and why don't positive affirmations alone work?" href="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/law-of-attraction-and-manifesting-desires/why-dont-positive-affirmations-alone-work/" target="_blank">EFT</a></strong></span>* session were so liberating and healing that I wanted to share how I did it with you.</p>
<p><em>*If doing EFT healing doesn&#8217;t resonate with you, that&#8217;s okay, you can still receive great benefits from writing out your limiting beliefs followed by positive affirmations the way I&#8217;ve outlined below.</em></p>
<h3><strong>How I let go of the negative writings on my wall&#8230;</strong></h3>
<p>Even if you don&#8217;t have a problem with people interrupting you while you&#8217;re talking, the script I used is also good for if you have a fear that what you want to  say isn&#8217;t &#8220;good enough&#8221; or &#8220;isn&#8217;t safe&#8221; to express around certain people (feel free to tweak the phrases to suit your issues).</p>
<p>I started off with a few <strong>neutralizing statements</strong>.  Here&#8217;s a piece of it:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;Even though my friend interrupts me, I&#8217;m not worthy of speaking, I deeply and completely love and accept myself&#8230;And <strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><em>I&#8217;m willing to feel worthy of speaking anyway.</em></span></strong></p>
<p>Even though I just don&#8217;t have permission to speak, it&#8217;s not safe&#8230;<em><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>I give myself permission and I&#8217;m willing to let go of needing other people to give me that permission.&#8221;</strong></span></em></p></blockquote>
<p>Then I had an all-out vent session and entertained my inner child. <strong>I let myself rant, whine, and complain&#8230;listening and validating that I felt hurt and slighted. </strong>(<em>Whoo! That felt good </em><img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/razz.png' alt='Razz' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' />)</p>
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<h3><strong>The affirmations I used to rewrite my wall&#8230;<br />
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<p>Then I proceeded to rewrite the writings on my wall by expanding my list of positive choices and affirmations.  If you&#8217;d like to write some of your own, here&#8217;s a snippet (from my session) to get the ball rolling for you:</p>
<blockquote><p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">&#8220;I choose to let go of taking her interrupting me personally.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">I&#8217;m willing to forgive her, and all the interrupters from my past.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">I now allow myself to feel worthy of expressing myself verbally.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">It&#8217;s safe for me to say what&#8217;s on my mind.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">The only person that needs to validate me is me.</span></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="color: #ff6600;">I&#8217;m willing to let go of my need for others to validate me for what I say.&#8221;</span></strong></p></blockquote>
<h3><strong>The results of my self-healing session&#8230;</strong></h3>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><span style="color: #000000;">After this self-healing session of rewriting my beliefs, I felt that I truly let go of my resentments in getting interrupted.  I’ve noticed that when I get interrupted now, by anyone, I’m relaxed about it and know that eventually I’ll get to say what I meant to.</span></span></p>
<p>I also experienced something surprising from her end:  Since rewriting my beliefs, she started to catch herself about to interrupt me on a few occasions.</p>
<p>That goes to show that changing your reality is an inside job.  Before others change, you must let go of your own limiting beliefs about yourself and the world around you.<strong><span style="color: #ff6600;"><span style="color: #000000;"><br />
</span><br />
</span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;">***</p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">Have you ever been interrupted?  How did you make peace with it?</span></strong></p>
<p style="text-align: left;"><strong><span style="color: #000000;">Please share your story with us!  And let me know what you think of this post by dropping a comment in the &#8220;Leave a Reply&#8221; box <img src='http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/tango-smileys-extended/tango/wink.png' alt='Wink' width='16' height='16' style='vertical-align: middle !important;' /></span></strong></p>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 30 Jan 2009 00:57:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carlota</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Just wanted to share a very cool video on how a negative script that you might've been playing in your mind can be reversed...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just wanted to share a very cool video on how a negative script that you might&#8217;ve been playing in your mind can be reversed!!</p>
<p>I first saw it on the <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Joyful Days blog" href="http://www.joyfuldays.com/2009/01/how-does-your-life-script-read/" target="_blank">Joyful Days</a></strong></span> blog, <span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a title="Joyful Days blog" href="http://www.joyfuldays.com/2009/01/how-does-your-life-script-read/" target="_blank">&#8220;How does your life script read?&#8221;<br />
</a></strong></span></p>
<a href="http://www.sqooshyourcritic.com/articles-to-help-you-sqoosh-your-critic/a-passionate-career/revising-your-negative-script-can-be-as-simple-as-playing-it-backwards/"><em>Click here to view the embedded video.</em></a>
<p>What do you think of this video? (<strong><em>Remember to leave me feedback so I know what to post more of!</em></strong>)</p>
<p>I was quite depressed by the forward version of it.  Goes to show what your own limiting beliefs can do to you!</p>
<p>I decided to make a little ditty of my own:</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>When you get criticized</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>Stop Creating</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>And don&#8217;t </strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>Keep Trying</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong><br />
</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>When others disapprove</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>Let go of your personal power</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>And don&#8217;t </strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #3366ff;"><strong>Continue manifesting your Dreams</strong></span></p></blockquote>
<p>I definitely feel better about the backwards version of it:</p>
<blockquote><p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Continue manifesting your Dreams</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>And don&#8217;t </strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Let go of your personal power</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>When others disapprove</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong><br />
</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Keep trying</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>And don&#8217;t </strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>Stop creating</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #ff6600;"><strong>When you get Criticized</strong></span></p></blockquote>
<p>If you come up with your own negative-to-positive script, please share it with us in the &#8220;Leave a Reply&#8221; box!<br />
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