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How to Stop Taking Things Personally (Part 2)

Carlota — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 05:56:52 +0000

Limiting Belief

I take things personally but I don’t want others to know I do!

Playback Affirmation

Even though I take things personally, I don’t have a sense of humor about myself, and I try to act like words don’t hurt me, I deeply and completely love and accept myself…without judgment.

In Part 1 of “How to Stop Taking Things Personally”, we addressed the limiting beliefs you may have surrounding taking things personally, and tapped on an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) script to reduce some of the negative charge you were holding onto.

The reason why you want to take things less personally, is because…

In order to attract more abundance into your life, you must let go of inner criticisms that exhausts your energy and causes you to take things personally. After reducing the number of things that you take personally in your life, it will be easier to focus on attracting the abundance you seek!

Let’s review:

In an effort to protect you from “making a total and complete fool out of yourself,” your inner critic may have formed beliefs such as these:

I am too sensitive.
I take things too personally.
I don’t have a good sense of humor about myself, and this is unattractive.
No one else is taking anything personal, so when I do it’s unacceptable.
It’s not safe to show my emotions.
I need to act like I have thick skin when I’m in public.

When you read the list above, does it feel constricting and exhausting to hold up to such beliefs?

If so,

Let’s dust yourself off and begin the process of installing more healthy and positive choices ! (based on Dr. Patricia Carrington’s EFT Choices method).

The choices we are going to make are positive affirmations.

Let’s do a few EFT rounds to install these positive choices into your belief system:

EFT Diagram of Tapping Points

Setup Phrase at the Karate Chop point (KC):

“Even though I take things personally, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.

Even though I don’t seem to have a sense of humor about myself, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I try to act like words don’t hurt me, but they do, I deeply and completely love and accept myself…without judgment.”

Now let’s go to the remaining EFT points and tap in our positive choices:

First we’ll address the self-judgment of taking things personally…

Inner Eye Brow point (IE): “I’m willing to let go of beating myself up for taking things personally.”

Outer Eye point (OE): “What if EVERYONE takes things personally, and I am not alone in this?”

Under Eye point (UE): “If this is true, then I choose to be more accepting of this part of me.”

Under Nose point (UN): “And maybe when I take things personally, it’s because there are parts of me that I do not fully accept.”

Chin point (C): “I’m willing to take these opportunities when I take things personally…”

Collar Bone point (CB): “…To explore parts of me that could use more of my self-acceptance.”

Under Arm point (UA): “I can allow myself to experience taking things personally as an opportunity…”

Top of Head point (TOH): “…For more healing, love, and self-acceptance.”

Inner Eye Brow point (IE): “I choose to let go of judging myself with other people’s words and actions.”

Outer Eye point (OE): “What I think of me is my business.”
Under Eye point (UE): “What others think of me is their business.”
Under Nose point (UN): “What I think others think of me may just be a wild guess.”

Chin point (C): “What I think others think of me may just be what my inner critic made up.”

Take deep breath. Now let’s address your belief that “I’m too sensitive.” Continue tapping…

Collar Bone point (CB): “Words sometimes hurt me and I’m willing to acknowledge and validate these feelings.”

Under Arm point (UA): “I’m willing to let go of the need to hurt myself with other people’s words and actions.”

Top of Head point (TOH): “I can be sensitive at times, maybe all the time, and I accept this part of me.”

Inner Eye Brow point (IE): “What if being sensitive can be beneficial?”

Outer Eye point (OE): “What if being sensitive allows me to experience the richness of life more fully?”

Under Eye point (UE): “Then I’m willing to see how being sensitive gives me the capacity to be more empathetic, compassionate, emotionally intelligent, intuitive, and creative.”

Under Nose point (UN): “I choose to allow myself to use my sensitivity to sense the needs of others, including myself, and be emotionally available for moments of healing.”

Take another deep breath. And now let’s finish off this session by addressing your judgment that you don’t have a sense of humor about yourself…

Chin point (C): “What if I DO have a sense of humor about myself…”

Collar Bone point (CB): “…It’s just covered under layers of self-judgment?”

Under Arm point (UA): “If this is true, then I’m willing to let go of judging myself…”

Top of Head point (TOH): “… For having a ‘bad sense of humor.’”

Inner Eye Brow point (IE): “I DO have a good sense of humor about myself,”

Outer Eye point (OE): “And I’m working on allowing it to come forth.”

Under Eye point (UE): “I choose to be gentle with myself as I uncover my inner criticisms and self-judgment.”

Under Nose point (UN): “I’m willing to create a safe space where I can lovingly let go of my limiting self-beliefs.”

Chin point (C): “I’m willing to see the humor in labeling my sense of humor,”

Collar Bone point (CB): “…And in doing this, I am choosing to let go of needing to label myself”

Under Arm point (UA): “I can allow myself to enjoy my sense of humor, just as it is.”

Top of Head point (TOH): “I choose to appreciate, approve, and accept myself just the way I am.”

How do you feel after reading this script? Did you do some EFT tapping with it? Any thoughts or insights you’d like to add to this discussion? I look forward to reading your comments

5 quotations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic

Carlota — Sun, 08 Mar 2009 00:29:41 +0000

Here are a few more of my favorite quotations to Sqoosh Your Inner Critic, I hope they empower you as they have in my life! Enjoy!

1. “Don’t worry about what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive and do that because what the world needs are people who have come alive.” ~Howard Thurman

–> The world needs passionate people. When you do what makes you come alive, your passion gives others permission to do the same, and this brings deep healing and abundance to everyone in the world.

Amazing contributions come from passionate people who do what makes them come alive!

2. “Often what we think are ‘wrong’ with us are only our expressions of our own individuality. This is our uniqueness and what is special about us. Nature never repeats itself. Since time began on this planet, there have never been two snowflakes alike or two raindrops the same. And every daisy is different from every other daisy. Our fingerprints are different, and we are different. We are meant to be different. When we accept this, there is no competition and no comparison. To try to be like another is to shrivel our soul. We have come to this planet to express who we are.”

~ Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life

–> I like to read Hay’s words when my Inner Critic causes me to feel inferior compared to others because how I do things is “too different”, “odd”, “strange”, “eccentric”, or “not like normal people would do it”.

3. “One of the greatest fears you’ll confront is that you may not have any real value to offer others. As you begin to dump such brainwashing, you’ll soon recognize that you have the ability to provide enormous value to others and that people will gladly pay you for it.”

~ Steve Pavlina, author of Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth

–> Once you turn towards passion and what to do for a living that incorporates what you’re passionate about, you might experience your inner critic telling you useless things like “you might be passionate about it, but you’re not that good at it!” You might also ask yourself “what are my talents?!” Only to draw a blank. Pavlina’s quote is useful in these situations (among many others!)

4. “All you really need is the courage to be yourself. Your real value is rooted in who you are, not what you do. The only thing you need actually do is express your real self to the world. You’ve been told all sort of likes as to why you can’t do that. But you’ll never know true happiness and fullfillment until you summon the courage to do it anyway.”

~ Steve Pavlina, author of Personal Development for Smart People

–> This can be easy to forget in our society, where the focus is on results and everyone seems to identify you by “what you do”. I have to remind myself that “what I did” and “what I didn’t do” are not “who I am”. With this in mind, it is easier to forgive and accept yourself

5. [ To be determined...by you?! ]

–> HELP!! When I came up with this blog post idea, I soon discovered that due to perfectionism and the “need” to keep all my books looking brand spankin’ new, none of my books were highlighted with my favorite quotes! You got me, I lied. I have only 4 to share with you today…

–>BUT, it’s no coincidence you’re reading this post, as the Law of Attraction brought you here today Blogs are about co-creation…if you have a powerful quote we would all appreciate you sharing it with us!! You can leave as many as you’d like in the comments box.

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